"Inner Beauty is Bullshit", and other lessons in modern feminism
When I was in the 6th grade I came home from my school dance absolutely bawling my eyes out. My parents asked me what was wrong, and I said I hadn’t been asked to slow dance even once. I cried that all the pretty girls had been asked to dance, whereas I was ugly and awkward and would never be wanted by anybody. My parents did what any parents would do and told me that I was beautiful in my own way.
Madonna has a fabulous quote that states that power is knowing you are not loved and not being broken by it. Similarly, power is knowing that you are not gorgeous and not being broken by it. Yes,I acknowledge we are all attractive in different ways, and people will appreciate your physical appearance in different ways. But why is the catchphrase of body acceptance “inner beauty”. Why are we still talking about beauty? Why is beauty our main concern all day, all night, every minute, every hour?
When boys feel insecure about their weight, their height, their oddly shaped noses, they’re told that it’s okay. Even if they’re not handsome they are funny, and smart, and talented. They accept this, and they can make peace with who they are.
What I wouldn’t have given, 6 years ago to hear that it was okay. That it’s okay to look strange and awkward and lanky, because if you’re also smart and funny and passionate and kind you are still worthwhile. We have made so much progress as a society and yet the best thing you can tell a woman is that she’s beautiful? The second best seems to be telling her that she possesses ”inner beauty”.
I dont have all the answers here, but is it possible to feel good about yourself without feeling physically attractive? Considering the vast majority of us dont win the genetic lottery, its about time there was a way.
War Logs: Life Lessons From a Surviving First Semester Highschool Senior
- We are Getting Old. And this is not a reference to my one friend who has actually begun getting grey hairs as an offshoot of stress. The all-nighters that were once so feasible, now leave us reeling for days. We need 8 hours of sleep to function properly, we cannot sustain ourselves on diets of pizza, coffee and donuts. We’ve begun to drink tea. Hangover’s have become a harsh reality of life. We have also taken a sudden interest in cats.
- Sleep is for the weak. Somewhat contradictory to the previous statement? Yes. While our bodies have begun to vigorously reject all nighters we are not listening quite yet. It is possible to push the limits of health and sanity to GET YO SHIT DONE!
- When the going gets tough the tough get going, and I leave the building. One of the wonderful things school does is confine a group of adolescents in a pressure cooker as a way of weeding out the weak (in this case the weak are people who need sleep, food, time to themselves, time to see friends, time to think) all unreasonable human needs according to the IB.
- If you are the smartest person in the room, you are in the wrong room. Probably my favorite quote of all time which was cemented in Kuala Lumpur on a Model United Nations conference. There is so much to be gained by surrounding yourself with people who are knowledge about something or the other, whether it be 18th century French History, chemistry or how to stuff 20 marshmallows into your mouth at once. People who talk to you not just about other people but about ideas and thoughts are the best type of people.
- Know your limits. But also dont. Know when you’re out of your depth and need to say “no”, but also realize that sometimes THE LIMIT DOES NOT EXIST. Mean Girls tells the truth.
- I never want to go back to where I was one month ago even though now I’m plagued with a false sense of calm and don’t know how to spend my time other than watching bad reality tv. In my defense Here Comes Honey Boo Boo does give some incredibly cultural insights about our current zeitgeist.
- The phrase ”In 5 months I’ll be in university” will prompt your parents to get super mushy and do wonderful things for you
- The future is scary. Not because bad things are necessarily going to happen but because you have no idea what is going to happen. Right now the future looks like a messy grey void. For the majority of our lives we’ve been able to picture what the next year will look like but at this point it could be anything. This is both terrifying and exhilarating at the same time.